Guest Article: “Motherhood is to be revered” by Shailza Bajaj

07Mar12

Mother, guest writer and a Gharkamai listed professional, Shailza Bajaj shares with us her experience of becoming a mother and finding her balance between work, family, parenthood and all the other things that pull us in a thousand different directions! All the things that make us women unique. Happy Women’s Day!

There are different kinds of relationships we encounter during our entire journey of life but, the relationship between a mother and the child is divine.

Motherhood is God’s biggest blessing to a woman. Almost every woman has a desire to have her own child. The wish to see reflection of self/ partner’s in the child increases this happiness even more. The whole journey from conceiving to having a baby in your arms is extremely beautiful. The nine months spent in discomfort and pain seems worthy when you finally get to embrace the baby.

The first string which connects a baby with the mother actually gets created even before a woman medically comes to know about her pregnancy status. During pregnancy, a woman interweaves thousands of dreams for the baby, who is being carefully nurtured in her womb and prays with every breath for the child’s wellbeing.

At the time of birth when the doctor cuts the umbilical cord, a stronger bond of emotions gets created between them. Though the connection through the umbilical cord provides everything which is needed for a baby to grow inside the womb, the emotional cord provides strength to the child to live in this world.

Each woman goes through the unique experiences of motherhood and cherish her memories in own way. However, the first feel of a baby, the curious spark in the baby’s eyes when she/he initially sees the world, thoughts and emotions which evokes in a mother’s heart after the first look or hearing a child for the very first time are the treasures for any mother. Slowly and gradually, the baby becomes an essential part of her life. Her happiness and life simply enfolds around the child forever. All her thoughts and actions get devoted towards the child’s upbringing only.

A mother helps the baby to adjust to the environment that God has blessed him/her with. She protects her child at each step/level/stage and equips him/her with good life skills; to enable him/her to sail through all the difficulties which he/she may encounter in different stages of life. A mother understands what quality of care means to a child and gives her best. Her tender touch and spiritual guidance influences the child’s life in terms of how he deals with people, social etiquettes, reactions to unexpected, stressful or testing situations and to maintain a balance under toughest circumstances.

Mother loves their children despite them doing wrong things. She corrects them graciously when needed. Her healing touch and care is beyond expectations – isn’t it heavenly? I believe the saying, that, “every child is born to fulfill a purpose and mother as a guardian angel helps the child to discover and live his purpose of life”.

Sharing life with a child is extremely enriching. Imagine how soothing it is to have at least one genuine relation in today’s deceptive world. The thought of a child waiting at home for the whole day fills the heart of a mother with love. She forgets the whole world to be with her child. Their little arms around the mother, hugs and kisses are filled with innocence which mother reciprocates with her caring touch and unconditional love.

We all know that it’s important for a woman to be physically fit and mentally stable to have a successful & safe motherhood. It’s possible only, if she has comfortable environment at home/workplace and is truly respected in the family and society. Every man should respect a woman he has brought into his life by showing several hopes and making lots of sweet promises of togetherness. He should feel gratitude towards her for making his world beautiful by bringing their child to this world.
Looking at motherhood in the current scenario; I feel that, there is a huge need to sensitize people towards motherhood. It is to be seen in a positive way by all and should be given the respect which it deserves. Currently, the perspective of society and professional organizations shows a mixed type of response. There are very few organizations that respect well qualified women & provide jobs to those who are going through pregnancy or are at the early stage of motherhood.

It’s yet to be understood and well accepted by the society that the increased level of personal responsibility of a woman after being a mother doesn’t decreases her intellectual level or intensity to work. There are many Indian women, who have outshine and set examples for others by excelling in their particular field while being responsible mothers. They are women of substance and carry a message for all of us.

I think it’s important to see the blissful side and revere motherhood. It’s the ancient culture and tradition of our country “INDIA”, to honor any woman and worship the mother. Let’s live upto our dignified heritage by protecting this culture and passing it on to the next generation with pride.
– Shailza Bajaj

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